The image on the right depicts an angry, screaming King Kong clutching a feinting white woman in a barely-there dress. The image on the right depicts a muscular and strong Lebron James screaming and taking a forward-facing stance while wrapping an arm around Giselle Bundchen who is posed more passively and loose as if she is skipping through a meadow, hair flowing, satin dress clinging to her frail frame. She’s smiling and seemingly carefree. This juxtaposition illustrates the white supremacist socially constructed tropes that contain Black men’s sexuality and White women’s sexuality. These tropes exist in tandem and both project harmful and inaccurate stereotypes.

The Binary is A White, Colonialist Fiction and It’s Up to White Cishet Folks to Disrupt It

Our society is propelled and propped up by white supremacist fictions like the belief that genitals determine gender, that the only form of valid intimacy is between a cis man and a cis woman, and that marriage is the only time you are allowed to have sex. Unlearning these beliefs is crucial to mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual health.

As a cishet white woman my sexuality is affirmed everywhere I go, every space I enter, on every television show, every news channel. My health, livelihood, and human rights are not currently, and have never been, under attack due to my gender or skin color, which are inextricably linked.

Unfortunately, usWhite women (*cough* Taylor Swift *cough*) have often been huge barriers to healthcare and basic human rights for LGBTQIA+ and two-spirit communities — particularly, for trans Black womxn and femmes.

We too often support individuals and organizations that profit from Queerness. We often can’t be bothered to think more critically and research more deeply, to reassess…