5 Tips for Cultivating Authenticity
Authenticity isn’t a one and done act. It’s a process of continual self-discovery, a commitment to unlearning your conditioning under systems of oppression, and an embrace of healing from trauma.
- What are you drawn to? What people, places, or things catch your eye?
Chances are you are drawn to that thing because you want it or you want to be it. Our brains are conditioned to see through a lens of lack because of white supremacist, patriarchal, capitalism.
Instead of noticing how alike we are to something, we tend to focus on how dissimilar we are — what they have that we don’t. I did this with Harry Styles. I wanted to be him and I wanted to be WITH him. I adore him forever. In a therapy session I explored this tension more and found that I do possess Harry Styles qualities and characteristics, but I just express them in different ways and in different circumstances. I also came to the conclusion that Harry Styles wouldn’t be able to do certain things like I do and that’s where I shine.
Where might you be projecting onto someone else? What do you actually have and possess, but aren’t recognizing in yourself?
2. In a dream world how do you want to show up? Like, dream big right now. How would you ideally show up in the world if nothing could stop you or tell you otherwise?
